Boundaries stands for the limits or guidelines that individuals establish to define and protect their emotional and physical space. They define what is acceptable and what is not in terms of communication, behavior, and interaction with others.
There are different types of boundaries, such as:
Physical Boundaries
These boundaries define the physical space around an individual. They include privacy, physical space, and the right to physical touch. These boundaries can vary among cultures, traditions, and individuals. Respecting them are important for maintaining personal comfort and security. Some examples of violating physical boundaries are:
- Unwanted contact (kisses, hugs, handshakes, etc.)
- Violating personal space (standing/sitting to close, knocking before entering, eavesdropping, etc.)
Emotional Boundaries
These boundaries involve setting limits on the emotional energy and intimacy shared with other. Healthy emotional boundaries promote self-care and autonomy, as well as prevent manipulation and emotional exhaustion. Some examples of violating emotional boundaries are:
- Engaging on controversial topics of discussion (politics, academics, intimacy, etc.)
- Asking for personal information (intimacy, health, age, address, etc.)
- Making inappropriate comments (verbal harassment, hate speech, insulting jokes, etc.)
By helping individuals to prioritize their own needs, values, and well-being, boundaries set and forces us to demonstrate self-respect and they prevent issues such as emotional and physical abuse.
They are important because they encourage clear and comfortable communication. It provides an opportunity for individuals to express their preferences, needs, and limits, allowing others to understand and respect them. Additionally, boundaries encourage the concept of consent, ensuring that interactions are consensual and respectful.
Boundaries serve as an essential tool inside and outside of the classroom. At COM, boundaries are important because they help maintain a healthy balance and respectful relationships between students, staff, and faculty.